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Parenting Tips

Parenting children has become increasingly more difficult in light of the opioid crisis and the overall addiction pandemic.  90% of individuals become addicted even before they leave high school, so understanding the risks of addiction and how to change your parenting strategy is critical.  Here is a directory of parenting tips that offer practical advice.

Parenting Tips
A Million Little Things - How to Recognize the Signs
Some of the things that predict those at risk for addiction are obvious. If your family has a history of addiction, your child is genetically predisposed to develop the disease as they enter adolescence or young adulthood. In fact, the risk is 10-fold vs. the child with little to no family ...
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Some of the things that predict those at risk for addiction are obvious. If your family has a history of addiction, your child is genetically predisposed to develop the disease as they enter adolescence or young adulthood. In fact, the risk is 10-fold vs. the child with little to no family history. But what are the other “little things” that we should be paying attention to?
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A Tale of Two Fathers
Fatherhood is an unbelievable opportunity and a significant responsibility to mold children into intact and confident people who believe in themselves and are kind to others. My life is truly a tale of two fathers – one that strengthened me and inspired confidence and the other that took away ...
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Fatherhood is an unbelievable opportunity and a significant responsibility to mold children into intact and confident people who believe in themselves and are kind to others. My life is truly a tale of two fathers – one that strengthened me and inspired confidence and the other that took away the hopes and dreams of my daughter because he failed to show up.
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Adoption and Addiction
Adoption comes with great joy but also can come with elevated risk caused by the unknown genetic background that may include addiction in the family. Parents of adopted children need to be especially vigilant with their adopted children watching for warning signs that they may be struggling. Early ...
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Adoption comes with great joy but also can come with elevated risk caused by the unknown genetic background that may include addiction in the family. Parents of adopted children need to be especially vigilant with their adopted children watching for warning signs that they may be struggling. Early counseling is often helpful so that the adolescent can process the circumstances around their adoption in a more healthy way
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Deciphering the Signals - Where There is Smoke....
One of the prime directives we have as parents is to be observant, recognize the signs that your child may be in trouble and find ways to intervene. Where your child is concerned, where there is smoke, there is often a fire waiting to happen or already burning. Know what to look out for, then take ...
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One of the prime directives we have as parents is to be observant, recognize the signs that your child may be in trouble and find ways to intervene.  Where your child is concerned, where there is smoke, there is often a fire waiting to happen or already burning. Know what to look out for, then take those signs as a signal that you need to investigate, create a plan to address these issues and get corrective action.
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Easter Eggs - Look for the Hidden Clues
Some signs of drug use are quite obvious: needle marks in the arm, drug paraphernalia found in the room, and dramatic changes in appearance. But some are “Easter Eggs”. They stay hidden until you look for them and provide valuable clues that your teenager may be in trouble.
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Some signs of drug use are quite obvious: needle marks in the arm, drug paraphernalia found in the room, and dramatic changes in appearance. But some are “Easter Eggs”. They stay hidden until you look for them and provide valuable clues that your teenager may be in trouble.
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Experiencing the Natural Consequences of Poor Decisions
You have to ask yourself what life lessons children really learn if parents step in to do the work for them, get them into schools that may be over their head, or get them out of trouble. Nowhere is this parental philosophy more destructive than when it comes to managing a child struggling with ...
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You have to ask yourself what life lessons children really learn if parents step in to do the work for them, get them into schools that may be over their head, or get them out of trouble.  Nowhere is this parental philosophy more destructive than when it comes to managing a child struggling with substance abuse and addiction. Children must be able to experience the natural consequences of poor decisions often driven by their pursuit of the substance and learn from those experiences. 
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Loving Your Addicted Child
Could you be loving your child to death?When we love our child and we see them struggle with the ravages of addiction, our first reaction is to rely on the strength of our love to fix the problem, keep them safe and return them to the person that we loved so much. Watching someone disintegrate ...
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Could you be loving your child to death?When we love our child and we see them struggle with the ravages of addiction, our first reaction is to rely on the strength of our love to fix the problem, keep them safe and return them to the person that we loved so much. Watching someone disintegrate right in front of us is an almost unbearable pain that tears at our heart.
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Motherhood Hijacked by Addiction
Mothers were born to play a supportive and nurturing role. We were built for that. But when your child begins using substances or develops the disease of addiction, mothers are forced into negative and unnatural roles that no longer look like “mother”. If that describes you or someone you ...
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Mothers were born to play a supportive and nurturing role. We were built for that. But when your child begins using substances or develops the disease of addiction, mothers are forced into negative and unnatural roles that no longer look like “mother”. If that describes you or someone you know who has a child that is struggling, it’s very important to be honest with others about what is going on, ask for their help and understanding, and find ways to come to grips with having your role as mother hijacked. It’s life-changing, grief-inducing, and devastating when you no longer are able to be the mother that you dreamed you would be.
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My Teenager is in Trouble
You suspect that your teenager is using drugs and you believe that he or she is in trouble. What do you do next? Here is some practical advice to implement safety strategies while you are trying to figure out the next steps.
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You suspect that your teenager is using drugs and you believe that he or she is in trouble.  What do you do next?  Here is some practical advice to implement safety strategies while you are trying to figure out the next steps.
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Self Esteem and Addiction
Children or teenagers with low self-esteem are far more likely to abuse alcohol or drugs. They will be more likely to bow to peer pressure when their friends start to experiment with these substances. They will also find the idea of escaping reality more appealing because it means getting away from ...
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Children or teenagers with low self-esteem are far more likely to abuse alcohol or drugs. They will be more likely to bow to peer pressure when their friends start to experiment with these substances. They will also find the idea of escaping reality more appealing because it means getting away from who they are. The younger they are and the worse they feel about themselves will only increase the risk of addiction.
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The Golden Child
You may think that your "golden child" could never become an addict, right? She's the cheerleader; he's the quarterback, and they make great grades. Think again. If there is a family history of addiction, 1 in 10 children will become addicted before they leave high school. Here are some ...
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You may think that your "golden child" could never become an addict, right?  She's the cheerleader; he's the quarterback, and they make great grades.  Think again.  If there is a family history of addiction, 1 in 10 children will become addicted before they leave high school.  Here are some thoughts on how to "rethink" things even when you have a "Golden Child".
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The Parent Guilt Trip
As parents, you feel guilty when you don’t think you’re doing enough, your kid doesn’t like you enough, or that you’re not giving enough. With addicts, this philosophy is counter-productive and gives them an opening to manipulate you into giving them money, a car, or access to people and ...
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As parents, you feel guilty when you don’t think you’re doing enough, your kid doesn’t like you enough, or that you’re not giving enough. With addicts, this philosophy is counter-productive and gives them an opening to manipulate you into giving them money, a car, or access to people and places they shouldn’t go. It’s not your job to be “popular” or your child’s friend. It’s your job to keep them safe. So, get off the guilt trip and do the right thing. Saying no is OK no matter how persuasive your child is or how big their tantrum gets.
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The Parent Trap
If you have a friend or family member struggling to save one of their children from the ravages of addiction, it is not useful for you to second-guess or judge how they parented. They didn’t create addiction the biology of the brain did that. It is only useful to ask that unfortunate parent what ...
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If you have a friend or family member struggling to save one of their children from the ravages of addiction, it is not useful for you to second-guess or judge how they parented. They didn’t create addiction the biology of the brain did that. It is only useful to ask that unfortunate parent what you can do to best support them. The reality is that addiction is such a pervasive problem, that your child could be the next one to be affected and facing the judgment of others will only make you feel worse.
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The Storm Warning - When Will Addiction Strike?
Unlike a hurricane that takes days to develop, the storm of addiction starts to develop over a span of years, not days. This storm has some distinct warning signs that parents can heed to protect their family.
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Unlike a hurricane that takes days to develop, the storm of addiction starts to develop over a span of years, not days. This storm has some distinct warning signs that parents can heed to protect their family.
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Trust But Verify
Addicts become very good at hiding the truth. Not only are they lying to you, but you must remember that they are lying to themselves about their disease. After all, the truth of the disease and what they are doing to gain access to substances is sometimes too ugly for them to even admit to ...
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Addicts become very good at hiding the truth. Not only are they lying to you, but you must remember that they are lying to themselves about their disease. After all, the truth of the disease and what they are doing to gain access to substances is sometimes too ugly for them to even admit to themselves.